On Being a White Man - The Male Part
With My Granddaughter 1 1/2 Years Ago
I didn’t feel like I fit into my family.
While we often help our aging parents with practical advice or money, the emotional support still primarily comes from women such as our sisters.
(Courtesy of OWMCL Chicago) - Examples of Male Privilege
- If you have a bad day or are in a bad mood, people aren’t going to blame it on your gender.
- You can be careless with your money and not have people blame it on your gender.
- You can be confident that your coworkers won’t assume you were hired because of your gender.
- If you are never promoted, it isn’t because of your gender.
- You can expect to be paid equitably for the work you do and not paid less because of your gender.
- If you are unable to succeed in your career, that won’t be seen as evidence against your gender in the workplace.
- A decision to hire you won’t be based on whether the employer assumes you will be having children in the near future.
- You can generally work comfortably (or walk down a public street) without the fear of sexual harassment.
- You’re not taught that your sexuality exists only for other people – or stigmatized for masturbating.
- Most pornography is made with your gender in mind (and it creates some pretty damaging ideas about women and other genders).
- You’re not expected to change your name if you get married or questioned if you don’t.
- If you’re in a relationship with someone of another gender, you’re not expected to do more emotional labor in the relationship.
- Getting married to someone of another gender doesn’t mean more domestic labor for you (studies show that husbands add an average of 7 extra hours of housework a week for their wives.)
- You can generally walk alone at night without the fear of being raped or otherwise harmed.
- You can go on a date with a stranger without the fear of being raped.
- You can dress how you want and not worry it will be used as a defense if you are raped.
- If you are straight, you are not likely to be abused by your partner nor be told to continue living in an abusive household for your children.
- You can decide not to have children and not have your masculinity questioned.
- If you choose to have children, you will be praised for caring for your children instead of being expected to be the full-time caretaker.
- You can balance a career and a family without being called selfish for not staying at home (or being constantly pressured to stay at home).
- If you are straight and decide to have children with your partner, you can assume this will not affect your career.
- If you rise to prominence in an organization/role, no one will assume it is because you slept your way to the top.
- You can seek political office without having your gender be a part of your platform.
- You can seek political office without fear of your relationship with your children, or whom you hire to take care of them, being scrutinized by the press.
- Your political officials fight for issues that pertain to your gender, or at least don’t dismiss your issues as “special interest.”
- You can ask for the “person in charge” and will likely be greeted by a member of your gender.
- As a child, you were able to find plenty of non-limiting, non-gender-role-stereotyped media to view.
- You can disregard your appearance without worrying about being criticized at work or in social situations.
- You can spend time on your appearance without being criticized for upholding unhealthy gender norms.
- If you’re not conventionally attractive (or in shape), you don’t have to worry as much about it negatively affecting your social or career potential.
- You can have promiscuous sex and be viewed positively for it.
- Colloquial phrases and conventional language reflect your gender (e.g., mailman, “all men are created equal”).
- Every major religion in the world is led by individuals of your gender.
- You can practice religion without subjugating yourself or thinking of yourself as less because of your gender.