Entitled: A Most Useful Read- Particularly for Men

 Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women by Kate Manne is an excellent book that many men should definitely read.

"You girls have never been attracted to me.  I don't know why you girls aren't attracted to me, but I will punish you all for it.   It's an injustice, a crime, because I don't know what you don't see in me.  I'm the perfect guy and yet you throw yourselves  at all these obnoxious men instead of me, the supreme gentleman.

Hence Rodgers's plan, on his envisaged 'Day of Retribution': 'I am going to enter the hottest sorority house at UCSB and I will slaughter every single spoiled, stuck-up, blonde slut I see inside there.' (2)

In the end after being denied entry, he had to settle for shooting three other women (students from a nearby sorority house, Tri Delta), who were just then walking around the corner." (p.15)

"Beirle and Roger were thus plausibly on different ends of a spectrum of entitled male behavior: from the domineering to the disappointed.  While Beirle evinced his sense of entitlement to women's bodies by reaching out and subjecting them to unwanted touching, Rodger evinced his by harboring deep resentments to the women who did not reach out to him (metaphorically and literally). (12)" (p.21)

"Randy told Sherf essentially the same story he'd told  Rae: she'd had sex with Rae while she was unconscientious.  'She didn't say yes or no', he recalled.  Randy denied that it was rape and described what had happened as romantic.

Recall that himpathy, as I construe it, is the disproportionate or inappropriate sympathy extended to a male perpetrator over his similarly or less privileged female targets or victims, in cases of sexual assault." (p.36)

"In 2009, for example, a young woman in Washington State who told police she had been raped at knifepoint was fined $500 for supposedly filing a false report - a report that, it later turned out , had been accurate.  This came to light in 2011 because the rapist, who had a distinctive egg-shaped birthmark on his calf was subsequently accused of rape by another victim in a nearby district.(43)" (p.53)

"When women wearing seatbelts are involved in car crashes, they are 73 percent more likely than men to be killed or seriously injured.  This appears to be due to the fact that, until very recently, all crash test dummies were modeled on cisgender men- ignoring potentially important differences between cis men and women in typical fat distributions, skeletal structure and so on." (p.95)

We are so comfortable with regulating women's sexual behavior, but we're shocked by the idea of doing it to men.  Though it might seem strange to talk about men and abortion, it's stranger not to, since women don't have unwanted pregnancies without them.(32)" (p.109)

"The upshot: regardless of their own gender, people tend to assume that men in historically male-dominated positions of power are more competent than women, unless this assumption is explicitly contradicted by further information." (p.161-2)

"So, as I write this, I can't imagine successfully teaching my daughter all of these things.  There is so much counter-messaging in our culture; and there is so much her to teach her that I never learned myself - not properly, not fully.  I still have tremendous difficulty  picturing a world in which girls and women can reliably lay claim to what they are entitled to, let alone one in which they get it.  It will be a long, perhaps interminable fight.  But, for her, I can say: I am in it." (p.192) (end of book)

These are a few, of many, good examples of significant things in this book.

It is a good read!


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